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My own ‘Sister Wives’

If you haven’t seen the TV show on TLC called ‘Sister Wives’, then click this link and check it out & then come back here and read my blog.

Ok, now that you have either watched a few clips or already know what the show is all about….here is my ‘Sister Wife’ story.

As most of you know (or even if you don’t) me and my family are moving to TX from NC. We are out of our house that we were living but aren’t leaving NC until the middle of July. One of my husbands co workers had asked if we wanted to stay with them (him, his wife, and their 15 month old boy) and we wanted to make sure that they were ready to have 6 extra people in their house. So anyway, we excepted their invite and have been here since Friday evening. So here is the story…

Friday evening the 6 of us were very tired from two straight days of moving and cleaning out our house. So W (the wife) decided that she was going to give her son (B) a bath and asked if I minded if she put Coleman in with him, and no I didn’t mind. Well Coleman wasn’t having any of that! (New place and she wasn’t mommie kinda thing). So she gave B a bath and then Bailea wanted on so she went ahead and did Baileas bath. After we had gotten all 5 kids to bed and we were sitting on the couch W mentioned that she wondered if this what it feels like to be a sister wife. I started laughing so hard! I thought it was so funny & didn’t even think of that until she said something!

But in all honestly, it is kinda like that and the only difference is that my husband isn’t married to her and there is another adult male around. We all are helping out with each others kids and all doing housework here and there. I have liked the thought of having a sister wife around the house (minus the part where your husband is married to her) and now it’s like I get to experience that part. So far everything is working out great! And love the fact that there are more adults which equals more eyes to watch the children.

So far, again, everything is working out great & I hope it continues that way. I am so thankful for J & W and them opening up their home to us. I am not sure that I could have done the same thing if I were in their shoes. Thank you again to J, W, & B for allowing us to stay with you and invade your home 😉

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WombTube

I am not sure how many of you saw this piece, saw any reactions from Youtube after this piece aired, or you are totally in the dark about this….either way, here is my opinion.
*Click here to view the segment that aired on ABC News*

It’s the media first of all….they edit out what they want and leave in what they want. Yes I agree that at the end of the segment where rude and could have left out some comments, but we live in America and they have the right to say what they did. I am not defending what they said – I am defending their right to say that.

I follow a few TTCers on Youtube and many of them were upset about this piece and I wasn’t really sure why. (This part may be due to the fact that I am not TTC or pregnant and putting it on Youtube.) The ladies that were upset about this segment were taking it very personally and very upset. They were all defending why they share the information they do on YT. I didn’t feel it was necessary to get all worked out about it because the piece wasn’t even about TTCers….it was about people posting their videos of them taking a pregnancy test.

As most of the ladies that responded to this segment said about the ‘live’ pregnancy test….Youtube doesn’t have that option for their users. I don’t think any of these women who posted a pregnancy test posted it before telling at least their husbands but if they did…why is that any of our business!? Who they choose to tell and when is completely up to them. I don’t think we need to be criticizing how or when these ladies share such exciting news. I see no reason why women can’t share this exciting news & with whoever they please. Getting pregnant is an exciting time & even more so when you have been struggling for months and or years to get those 2 lines. Plus, not sure if anyone is aware of this part or not but, YOU DON’T HAVE TO WATCH IT! You can always go back to the main page on YT and not watch a video if you choose not too.

Also, some of the ladies where saying that they should have chosen someone other than Lucy (the women who was featured in this segment). I have been following Lucy and her family on YT for months now and I enjoy watching her and hearing her updates. Not everyone is a fan of her but not every has to be. Lucy gets a ton of traffic and has many subscribers to her channel. With that being said, the producers will choose someone with those high numbers. I don’t think it would have mattered who they chose because someone would have thought they should have picked someone else to interview. It was the shows choice who they picked and oh well, like it or not Lucy is who they picked.

The name “WombTube” also offended some of the ladies. I don’t see how that is offending or anything negative, but then again I am not TTC or pregnant and posting it on YT. I think it’s a cute name that goes along with what these kinds of videos are about.

All in all (my opinion), don’t get so upset about this piece….it was for entertainment purposes and that’s it. Yes it would have been nice if they would have told the stories of the women who struggle with fertility and shared their world too. Who’s to say they aren’t working on a piece like that right now!? And no matter what you say to any shows producers….they will pick and choose what parts are taken out and left in…that part isn’t up to us. I think that people get offend over the littlest things….stop getting so offended and taking everything so personally. There are always going to people who make fun of you, say something you don’t agree with, and so on. But it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or just let it roll off your shoulders.

Lastly, I just want to say that all of you TTCers & pregnant moms sharing your business on YT…keep doing it! Because all that information you share just isn’t for you, it’s for all those women out there that can relate to you. The struggles and success we go through aren’t just for us…..they are for sharing so we can help others. If someone doesn’t like what you are doing\saying, oh well, they can move on. You all are great women and I love hearing about your stories…..good, bad, and ugly. Keep your head up and don’t let a little morning show put a damper on your journey!

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Hot Topics – Rules

Ok, so I don’t want to give you a lot of rules because I want each and every one of you to freely express you feel about any topics that might come our way, but I just want to lay down some points that certain things will not accepted no matter what!

Like I said in the Intro post, I will add more as I think of them or if something happens and it needs to be addressed.

 

 

*No name calling
*Do not use names outside of this blog (ie: talking to someone about a topic, you cannot use other people’s names that are mentioned in any Hot Topics post)
*No bashing of another person’s feelings/ideas/or stand on a topic
*Everyone has their own opinion and views and you must remember that they are just that, opinions

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Hot Topics

I have been trying to think of different ways to diversify the blog and something popped into my head this morning. We should have a Hot Topics section. I would love to hear what sort of topics that you want to talk about and/or hear about. I think that it is possible for us adults to talk about something without name calling and being hurtful towards someone if they don’t agree with your side of the topic.

So if you have a Hot Topic that you want to talk about, can be about anything (And I mean anything), either comment below or email me at mommieventures@gmail.com and put ‘Hot Topic’ in the subject line!

I will also be making a post with rules and will continue to add them as I think of them or if something happens and it needs to addressed.
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind and say your opinion! We do live in America…..Freedom of Speech!!!!!!!!!!!

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Teen Mom

I know that the finale was two weeks ago and then the reunion was last week….so I am late in posting this….but oh well!
So here are my thoughts on each Teen Mom!

*Maci-
I think that she is one of the best Moms! She puts her child first and always thinks about what is best for him. I don’t think that it was the smartest thing in the world to do when she moved to be with Kyle, but on the other hand I think that she was wanting out of where she lived and this was just the reason she used to get out of there. I commend her for not packing up and leaving when her and Kyle broke up! I was actually surprised when her parents were upset with her for NOT moving back in with them. I would have thought that her parents would have been happy that their child didn’t run home just because something didn’t work out for them. I know that Maci is a tough woman and can handle a lot but I think that she needs to open up alittle and get some things off her chest. I also commend her for saying that maybe she shouldn’t had blamed Ryan for everything going wrong when they were together. It takes two to make things work & takes two to not make them work. I do think that Maci tried when her and Ryan together but I think that maybe she should have thought about how he was feeling & going through as well. Just like I think that Ryan should have done that with Maci. Ryan could definitely step up his game in the fatherhood department though. I don’t think he does enough and that he relies on his parents too much. I think that he needs to get a job and start working with Maci more instead of against her. I don’t think that they should be together because I think that they have too many issues and too much past to do that…..but I do see Ryan starting to work with Maci (but like I said, I think he needs to do more of that). I saw that Maci & Kyle were back together on the reunion show which made me happy! I think that they are so cute together! I can understand how it was too much for Kyle when they moved closer to him and I am glad that he was honest with Maci when she brought that up to him.

*Farrah-
Boy did she have a lot go on this season! Her mom hitting her, money basically stolen from her, and dealing with what happened with Derrick! I am not a big fan of Farrah’s mom and don’t think that I ever will be….however, I think that Debra matured a lot and once she was quite she could actually listen to her daughter instead of just hearing her. I was happy to see that Farrah brought her Mother into therapy with her because they both need it. I am not sure that I would have been able to do that if I had a mother like Debra. I was so proud of Farrah for moving out and living on her own! I don’t think living in her mom’s rental is the best idea, but if she can make it work then I think that’s great! The whole car thing seems like common sense to me but I think that she truly thought that this person was selling her a car & since she didn’t want to talk to her parents about it, she fell into this persons trap. I wish she would have talked about this with that one friend she has (cannot think of her name) before she sent the money. I think that friend could have stopped her from being ripped off. Speaking of that friend…..so glad she has her! I don’t think if it weren’t for that friend that Farrah would be sane! Now about Derricks sister! I was so mad at her for not going to the DNA place when she was first supposed to do it. I don’t know why she didn’t go, but still! However she did finally do it which I was so happy about. I love the fact that Farrah & Derricks sister are developing a relationship…I think that it’s good for Farrah and Sophia…but also good for Derricks sister. Apart of Derrick will always live on through Sophia! I was always wondering what happened to Sophia’s Dad and why he wasn’t in the picture….so sad to hear what happened but on the other hand so glad to know about him and what had happened…..the curiousity was killing me!!!!! I think that Farrah did a lot of growing up this season and she learned a lot….I think that she is a better person because of everything that she had to go through!

*Catelynn-
Oh how I love Catelynn! I just think that her and Tyler are the cutest couple ever! I cannot be an easy thing to hand over your child to another person and know that you will not be in your child’s daily life but then to have Catelynns Mom act and talk to her the way she does….drives me crazy! I would not live in that house if my mother treated me like that…no way! I understand that it can’t be easy to see your child go through that and lose the chance to be with your grandchild but that in no way gives Catelynns mom the right to say and act the way she does! I know that her husband is in jail and she is left to take care of things but ,again, no excuse! I think that her mother needs therapy and has a lot of issues to work out. When I saw the episode where Catelynn and Tyler got to visit & spend time with Carly I was smiling the whole time! I was super happy for them! The feeling they had when they were with her had to have been priceless! And that they were able to see her walk for the first time…..awesome! When everything went down about Catelynn and her ex from years ago, I thought Tyler overreacted alittle because it was years ago & they were so young…..but I also think that Tyler handled himself very mature and talked to Catelynn about it. So glad that she came clean about everything and that they worked through it! Glad that Tyler ripped up the phone records because there was no point in looking at any of that! I am glad that they are able to move past this and build a stronger and closer relationship! I don’t think if it were for Tyler’s mom that they would be where they are…I think that she is their back bone! So glad that she is there and has a level head on her shoulders! I hope that Catelynn and Tyler get to visit more often with Carly and her parents!

*Amber-
Amber Amber Amber…..I can relate to this girl so much! I think that her and Gary both need help! I don’t think them being together is healthy for anyone! They need a middle person that they can talk to about things without that middle person having any relationship with them. I think that Garys friend is making things worse. I don’t think that Amber should have started anything with anyone when she did. I think that was a horrible move on her part! She needs help and every time she lashes out…it is a cry for help! The way that she broke down every time she talked on the reunion show was another sign that she needs help. She is not a bad person/mother…..she needs help! I think that if her and Gary get the help they need that they can be together and raise Leah in a happy & healthy home! I really think they truly love each other and want to be together…they just need help. I am not excusing any of their behaviors but they both didn’t act right and need help. I know that I keep saying that but it’s true.

These are my thoughts about the show from what I saw. I don’t think that any of these woman are bad people/mothers. We all have our faults and issues….ours just aren’t broadcasted all over America…..because if they were, there would be plenty of people talking smack about us & what we all do in our lives! There will always be someone somewhere that disagrees or has something to say about what we did or didn’t do. I don’t think bashing the person and saying mean/nasty things about them is the way to go. Being a parent is a hard thing to do for anyone regardless of age, color, income, where you live….none of that matters. I think as women and mothers we need to come together and be there for each other & not get wrapped up in the faults that people have. Yes they are there and yes people could have made better choices….but they didn’t…but it doesn’t mean you should be so nasty about it! These 4 woman have let these cameras into their lives and aired their dirty laundry for the world to see…..their choise to do that-yes. But let’s put ourself in their shoes and not be so hard on them! I wish all of them the best & cannot wait until the nest season! I will definitely be watching!

Also I came across this MTV blogger and she set up a bank account for people to donate money for Catelynn & Tyler to go to college. What do you think about that?
Here is where you can read more about it!

What are your thoughts on the show? Share!

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Kid classes

Now let me try and explain this the best that I can.
Ok-you know how when you have a puppy you take the puppy to puppy classes? Where they teach you how deal with some, if not all, the behaviors that the puppy will have & if your puppy misbehaves they tell you how to deal with it right then and there with you & your puppy?
I don’t know if this show is still on but you remember the show where the Nanny came in to these people’s homes because they had unruly kids? She would observe the kids and how the parents reacted to them & then she would turn around and teach the parent how to react to this behavior. And by the end of the episode the family was working better and then kids had better behavior.

Well I think the should combine what happens in a puppy class & what happened in this TV show.
I have tried talking about this topic before but I don’t think that people understood what I was talking about. I am NOT talking about the classes that you take while you are pregnant. Those classes don’t help you when you are in the middle of a 2 year old melt down or anything like that. There are times when I wish that I had someone there with me to help me deal with what is going on with my kids. Whether I need the help because I am just at a loss of what to do or because I have just had it and need help with those skills to calm myself down. I have no idea if this is coming across the way that I want it to, so if it’s not, please talk about it and ask questions.

Now I am not saying that these child classes should be a ‘must do’ but it would be nice if someone like Nanny Jo Frost where available when you needed the help. I know that I am not the only Mother out there that has been in a situation with one or more of my kids & just didn’t know what to do about the whole thing or my child was acting out and didn’t know how to change what they were doing.
I am not saying that I want someone there to DO the parenting for me, but just to help me out with how to react to some of the things that my kids do & I am just not sure how to deal with this. Sometimes you need that outside person to step in and give suggestions, give tips, and give support in those moments.

Anyway, these are my thoughts on kid classes & maybe one day there will be something like this available for parents out there that just aren’t sure what to do & have tried many different ways to deal with your childs behavior. Thanks for listening 🙂

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Sister Wives

Did anyone happen to watch this show on TLC Sunday night? Well I did! I am very interested in things that I don’t understand or situations that I have not experinced….I like to people watch! & the shows on TV allow me to do that without getting weird looks from people lol 🙂

The way that this family lives I do not agree with at all, but I was very interested in this show and what they would have to say. By the end of the show I was telling my husband that the way that they do live was great on paper! I am seriously, who wouldn’t want more help with housework, someone to watch your kids at the drop of a hat…for free, help with cooking, and anything else that comes along with being a parent?! If you answered no to those….there may be something wrong with you 😉

But (a BIG but), put aside the fact that I do not agree with this lifestyle, there is NO way that I would share my husband with another woman…..EVER! I am too jealous to allow that to happen! He would have one less wife by the end of the day if that were me. And I honestly think that if you say that you would be ok with that is lying. I mean it’s easy to say you are ok with something when it’s not happening to you…..from the outside looking in is always the easiest part. And why is it that you don’t see woman with multiple husbands? (Not that I agree with that either…just asking). It’s a great way for a man to have his cake and eat it too! But I am not here to preach my beliefs and tell you what you should be doing or not doing.

I would like to know who could live this sort of lifestyle and what you have to say about it! Like I said, in theory, this is a great idea! I mean what mom out there wouldn’t like to have the extra help without having to argue with a kid to get it done!? Share your thoughts here please!