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#reallifemommiemoments

Happy Friday!

Now, onto a mom rant!

For the past few weeks I have been volunteering up at my local library (been enjoying it more than I thought!) and haven’t had the time to do much around the house. Once I get home from the library, it’s time to get the kiddos from school, then it’s on to homework, dinner, usually some extracurricular activity, story (if time allows), and then bed time for the kiddos. I am exhausted, to say the least, by this time. I usually try to clean up from dinner, get a load in the dishwasher going, and a load in the washing machine before heading to bed myself.

Well this past week I haven’t been able to get up to the library due to having either a sick Mister and/or sick kiddos. This means that I’ve been home more this week but I still haven’t accomplished anything. My house is still a mess, laundry (clean & dirty) is still piled a mile high. Dishes are piling up faster than I can keep up. My mop & broom have put in for their retirement because they haven’t been put to work in so long. At least the trash is being taken care of! We have our tree but there’s nothing on it yet and it’s not even in the spot we want it. (How many more days until it’s too late to put it up?!)

I am just a whiny cracky mess lately.

As I sit here writing this trying to get my two year old to listen, cross my fingers that my 4 month old enjoys her swing long enough for me to write this, and make sure my two sickies are taken care of all I can think about is none of this will matter next week, month, year. None of this chaos is going to traumatize anyone (well maybe the mop & broom when they figure out they can’t retire). The mess will always be there. Laundry means my family has clothes. Dishes mean my family has full bellies. My dogs mean that we are in a spot where we can enjoy family pets. And Christmas will always come back around. I try (and it’s very hard for me most times) to focus on the well being of my family rather than the look. By look I don’t mean that I don’t care if they are dirty/bathed/combed kinda thing. What I mean by look is that I am not trying to portray my family as something it’s not. My house isn’t spotless. My house is used/lived in, not a display case. I have little people running/over taking my home 95% of the day. A spotless house is on my list but it’s many years done the line. What is at the top of my list is that my family is alive, healthy, and the house is still standing by the end of the day. Whatever I can get done in between those things is just a bonus.
This is also something that drives me crazy! I want to have a spotless house with a white picket fence and a tire swing hanging from the tree. I want things organized and in it’s place. I want to walk through my house without stepping/tripping over something. I want to be able to open my front door and not feel the need to apologize for what it looks like. I cannot wait for the day what I want happens.

Until that day comes, if ever, I will do my very best with what I can do now. It’s not your house nor your life. It’s different, not wrong. We all have some sort of chaos going on in our life.

For now I will try to push aside all this stress and frustration and overwhelmingness that I have because my list isn’t getting done & my house looks like a mess &&&&&…..

I will take one moment at a time. It’s all I can do since my plans never fall in place and never go the way that I want them to. Let me get through sick kiddos. Let me survive until nap time. Let me have a clean plate to eat lunch off of. Let me go because I am praying that wasn’t the school that just left a message telling me I have another kiddo sick!

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#30daysofthanks

You all know this hashtag by now, I mean it is the end of November.

I think that I always jump on this bandwagon every year. I don’t think there’s ever been a year that I actually completed 30 days. And seeing the lack of posts in my newsfeed by the end of the month, I’m not the only one. They say 21 days makes a habit but I can never make it that far into the month, ha!

So, if I don’t finish my #30daysofthanks, does that mean I’m not thankful!?

Absolutely not!

I think we should be thankful for everything, everyday. I know that more people are than aren’t. I understand why it’s more focused on in November. This time of year brings to our attention why we should be thankful for what we have and how great our lives actually are. Our focus kinda gets put on the back burner the other 95% of the year. I can totally see how and why that happens. Life happens. Life gets in the way. Our lives are our bubbles and sometimes the things that happen in our bubble are just so consuming that we forget to look outside our bubble. What happens in my bubble may not be a big deal in your bubble and vice versa. We tend to not be as merry and bright the rest of the year. We don’t put as much emphasize on giving and others the rest of the year.

Or maybe you & your family does. I know that our daily events get in the way I/we forget or choose not to focus on it. I’ve got a lot going on in my life daily that I’d rather not think of everyone else’s problems. As harsh as that may sound, it’s true and I know I’m not the only that thinks like this. It’s not meant to be mean or offensive to anyone but it is the truth.

Let me be real with you right now. My attitude, words, and thoughts have been anything but thankful these couple of days, almost a week. I see myself being thankful in certain moments or when things go a certain way. I’m seeing that I’m not so thankful when those moments aren’t going my way or something unexpectedly happens that throws a wrench in my plans. I have been spewing words of anger, hate, and just plain nasty words to my family. This is not ok. This isn’t me being the best me that I can be. This isn’t me setting a good example for my children. This isn’t me being a safe/happy place for my family to enjoy. I’m wallowing in my own self pity and getting so mad about something that won’t even matter next week. And if it will matter next week, it’s not even a big deal. I am not liking this side of me at all. I feel awful and horrible about how I’ve been treating my family and the words that have been coming out of my mouth. I am ashamed and would be embarrassed if anyone overheard me.

 

And so because of this, I am giving myself a challenge. You can join me if you’d like, you can help hold me accountable, you can just simply read my posts, or you can do nothing. All are acceptable and perfectly fine for you.

Starting January 1, 2015 I am going to be posting what I am thankful for every day for 365 days. It seems like a big task and. Bit overwhelming. I mean, I can’t even post for 30 days what I’m thankful for, what makes me think that I can do 365? I have no idea! But I am going to challenge myself. This is something that I am doing for myself and no one else. I’m not proving anything to anyone. The one reason I am making a public statement is, mostly, for accountability. Plus, I know someone else out there will need to check their attitude & words also. I’m not the only person out there having this negative nancy on their shoulder.

Im putting a stop to it before it gets too far out of hand. I’m the only person that can control this. I’m the only person that can make myself change. I cannot do it for anyone else but myself. I’m sure that by the end I will be a happier person.

Will I have days where I don’t want to find the good and be thankful for something? Yes. Will it be hard to come up with so many things? Sure. Will I miss a day? Or two? Probably! In the end though, it’s not about how many days in a row I did this. Or how many days in a row I missed. It’s a heart thing. It’s a happy heart thing. It’s always about the heart. Good and evil. It’s a heart and mindset kinda thing.

Let’s change our hearts & minds so that we can become the change we want to see I our spouses, kiddos, family members, friends, and communities. Sounds super cheesy, I know.

But I also know that it’s true.

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Take 3

Start here if you haven’t read these posts yet:
Mommie & the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day
Take 2

No matter the time of year, weekends & holidays are just different than the regular week.
This past 4th of July weekend was no different.
Mister had a 3 day weekend and, of course, all 5 kiddos where home. They don’t do anything different than any other day, so I am never quite sure why I get more irritated on the weekends. I don’t know if it’s because Mister is home and I want to spend time with him or what. Either way, I need to work on it.

I lost it on Sunday with the boys. All they had to do was clean their room, something that shouldn’t have taken more than an hour. Well they ended up choosing to take somewhere around 5ish hours to do. What a nightmare! The whining, crying, tattle taling, the talking back…ugh! At one point I had just had enough and didn’t pay attention to any of my words that I was saying. I started using cuss words (which I rarely do) and just yelling and flying off the handle. It was almost like I couldn’t calm down until I had that outburst. I felt horrible after my tantrum. I haven’t yet but I should probably still apologize for it.
After that, I was able to talk calmly and actually talk and not yell. I could form my thoughts much better and make sure what I was going to say was going to be helpful instead of hurtful.

I need to remember that when my kiddos have a meltdown or tantrum that they have just met their boiling point. I need to remember to not bite their head off for acting the same way that I did. We all have a breaking point. We all need a moment to breakdown, calm down, and then refocus. It’s not just adults. It’s always easier for me to look back and know what I should have done/said. It’s the in the moment times that I need to apply this stuff. I am not perfect in any way, shape, or form. I am a hot mess! My house is anything but quiet and calm. At any given moment if you come over to my house there is a mess on the floor & table and someone is usually crying or screaming. It’s a working progress. We are all still learning. Just because we have, almost, 6 kiddos does not in any way mean that we have a clue to what we are doing.

Imperfect progress.

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Thankfulness Update

So this plan didn’t go as I had wanted to at all!

I wasn’t able to get to the computer every night.
And when I did, I honestly forgot to post anything.

I started doing something instead.
I started writing letters to friends, family, businesses, and anyone else that I could think of that have been a blessing in our lives.
I did honestly start this in November and am not finished yet. I just sent out my first batch of thankfulness letters yesterday. (Which, by the way, I forgot to put a return address on the envelopes! Hope no one moved!)

I have more to write out and send!

I would like to not just do this during November but when someone does something, no matter how big or small. Take the time to sit down and write a letter to tell someone “Thank you”.

It seems like these days no one really does this anymore. I am very guilty of this! With technology these days there is no need to write a handwritten letter anymore. Heck, phone calls aren’t even needed to say thanks anymore! We just shot a text, email, or post it on Facebook.

Convenient : yes.
Personable: not so much.

It wouldn’t kill anyone or take up much time to do this forgotten tradition. And if you say you don’t have time you are lying! It can take less than 5 minutes to write a thank you letter.
Have more than 1 to write? Write them in between commercials while watching your favorite TV show, waiting for the dryer to stop, waiting in the Dr office. Stop and think about the free time you have…no matter how little time it actually is. You can always find time to write a quick “Thanks” to someone who took the time to do something nice for you!

Like I said, I have more to write and will get them out as soon as I can. I like doing this better than the posting on Facebook once a day about what you are thankful for. For some reason, doing this take more effort and means more. At least to me anyway.

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I Owe My Mother

My mommie sent me this in an email the other day & I definitely got a laugh out of it! I could hear say these things to me when I was a little girl & I heard myself saying these things to my kids now. Hope you enjoy this as much as I did!

Happy Mother’s Day 🙂

I Owe My Mother

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
“If you’re going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning.”

2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
“You better pray that will come out of the carpet.”

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
“If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”

4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
“Because I said so, that’s why.”

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
“If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
“Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”

7. My mother taught me IRONY.
“Keep crying, and I’ll give you something to cry about.”

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
“Shut your mouth and eat your supper.”

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTION-ISM.
“Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!”

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA.
“You’ll sit there until all that spinach is gone.”

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER.
“This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it.”

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
“If I told you once, I’ve told you a million times. Don’t exaggerate!”

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
“I brought you into this world, and I can take you out..”

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION.
“Stop acting like your father!”

15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
“There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do.”

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION.
“Just wait until we get home.”

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING.
”You are going to get it when you get home!”

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
“If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way.”

>19. My mother taught me ESP.
“Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you are cold?”

> 20. My mother taught me HUMOR.
“When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.”

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
“If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”

22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
“You’re just like your father.”

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
“Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?”

24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
“When you get to be my age, you’ll understand.”

> And my favorite:
25. My mother taught me about JUSTICE.
“One day you’ll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!” 

My mother taught me about CHOICE.
“Do you want me to stop this car?”

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Birthday Weekend

We had a birthday party this past weekend! Cake, presents, family, and friends…well one friend showed up and with the exception of few (who had legit reasons to not coming)….but I won’t go into how I wasn’t happy about that!

Almost all of our family was there this weekend! We always love spending time with them because we live anywhere from 4-6 hours away and usually only see them on special occasions. Saturday was fun filled! The kids received bedding, clothes, and a few toys! We had bought bubbles and chalk for the kids to play with because it was so nice out!

But our March birthday party is not just celebrating one birth, oh no, we have 3 March babies (5th, 21st, & 31st)! So while they are still young enough we combine their birthdays into one party…much easier that way and less expensive!

Of course our time with family never seems to last as long as we would like them to…the weekend always goes by too fast when we are with them. Sunday morning we went out to breakfast with everyone before they hit the road headed back home. It was so nice because we got an area in the restaurant that was sort of blocked off from everyone else. So, for the most part, the kids didn’t have to stay seated and could run around a little bit. Another plus to having family here, my husband and I actually had a meal with no interruptions and didn’t have to scarf down our food to tend to the kids. Thank you grandparents for that one!

My kids never enjoy saying ‘Goodbye’ to their grandparents. They start to get sad and usually don’t want to talk to anyone and sometimes don’t even give hugs & kisses and goodbyes to the grandparents because they are just too sad. This time seemed a little bit better….except our daughter. She just turned 3 and I think is started to get attached to certain family members, which I think is normal and I am sure that ‘the’ person will change as she gets older. This time around was her Nana and Grandpa (my mom and step dad). She wasn’t happy at all! Cried and asked for them all of Sunday and earlier this week. She knows that she can call them on the phone though if she wants, so we are doing that and I think that has helped her. Everyone is back to ‘normal’ but we do miss the grandparents when they aren’t here…stupid distance 😉

Here are some pictures from the party, enjoy 🙂

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Saint Patrick’s Day

Happy St. Patrick’s Day everyone!
Hope you are wearing green so you don’t get pinched! Speaking of being pinched…does anyone know why this or when this tradition started?

I thought that I would post some links with information and fun things to do today! Now if I would have planned and thought of this before 10.30 in the morning the day of, I would have done some of these things and posted pictures. Maybe we will do some this weekend when I have an extra pair of hands to help me, aka my husband 🙂

None of this information, recipes, or crafts are mine, I am just simply posting the links!

Here is some information that I found on Wikipedia about Saint Patrick’s Day.
I also found a website with recipes and another for crafts! If you happen to try any of these, I would love for you to share them here and post some pictures on the fan page!

Hope you all have a great day and for those of you that might, don’t drink too much green beer 😉

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Simply Heaven Lollipop Shoppe

At Simply Heaven Lollipop Shoppe our dream is to provide delicious, hand crafted confections that will remind you of the candy your grandmother might have made ~ full of love and sweetness all in one bite!

 Our premium milk chocolate has a high milk powder content that makes it very creamy and our dark chocolate has 60+% cocoa content making it a great antioxidant.

 Milk Chocolate Ingredients: Sugar, cocoa butter, dry whole milk, unsweetened chocolate, soy lecithin added as emulsifier, vanilla

Dark Chocolate Ingredients: Unsweetened chocolate, sugar, cocoa butter, soy lecithin as an emulsifier, vanilla

  

Doesn’t that make your mouth water just reading that?! I know that it did mine when I first read it!

When I first contacted Maureen about a review for some of her goodies in her shoppe, to be honest, I wasn’t excepting her to say yes. But I was so excited when she emailed me back and said yes! I couldn’t wait to get her package in the mail of two samples of fudge and a ton of lollipops! When it finally came I couldn’t open the package fast enough! Each fudge sample came in a pretty pink box! I took out the chocolate fudge first and took a butter knife and cut me off a piece. OMG, it was so good! The knife went through the fudge so easily and melted in your mouth! Oh it was good! The second sample was pumpkin cheesecake! I LOVE cheesecake almost as much as I love chocolate. Pumpkin cheesecake was so yummy! I had to make myself NOT eat both bars of fudge in two days! 🙂 I actually paced myself with it and it last for at least week 😉

The weekend that my second child was having a birthday party, I invited my friends into the kitchen to try a sample of both the chocolate and pumpkin cheesecake. The responses were silent! All you heard was ‘Mmmmmmm!’ I was asking what everyone thought about it because I was going to include their comments into this post. They were all saying that it was ‘Really good’ and ‘Where can I get some?’, but then one of my friends gave me the greatest review – I will never forget what she said! ‘This is what I imagined a pumpkin candle to taste like!’ Until she said that, that thought never crossed my mind but she was so right! Both the chocolate and pumpkin cheesecake fudge were a HUGE hit with family and friends!

Now the lollipops! The lollipops come in so many different flavors. Some that I call ‘odd’ because I never had a lollipop in that flavor. Some aren’t so crazy and tasted so good! I couldn’t choose my favorite one!
Harvest Moon Chai
Rose
Honey Clove
Cheesecake
Green Apple
Lavender
Mango
Margarita
Peppermint
Raspberry
Banana
Coconut
Honeysuckle
Peach
Chamomile Citrus
Hot Buttered Popcorn

Maureen has so many more goodies in her shoppe though! Chocolate, marshmallows, Mommy to be products, and so much more!
Maureen is also offering my readers a 10% discount! Just use the code SAVINGS.
Hurry and get those orders in before 01/27/11 to be sure that your goodies arrive before Valentine’s Day!
To order, please visit her website. And to stay up to date with everything cooking, ‘like’ her fan page!

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Nanny Caddy

Picture this:
You are getting you and your family ready for an outing ast the mall. You are pretty sure that you have stocked up your diaper bag with everything that your little one will need while you are out.
You have spend maybe about an hour at the mall and your baby needs a diaper change. No problem right!? WRONG! You forgot diapers at home! This means that you will have to leave and come back another time right? Nope, wrong again!

Nanny Caddy to the rescue!
Nanny Caddy has pretty everything your baby needs! No need to run back home and grab something. Nanny Caddy is fully stocked from diapers, baby wipes, pacifiers, and much more! I think that a Nanny Caddy should be in every area that there is a large amount and parents and kids!

Nanny Caddy looks just like a vending machine, but much more stylish!

It doesn’t list the prices of anything on their website, but I am sure they the items that you will find in there aren’t too expensive! This is one of those ideas where you think to yourself ‘Why didn’t I think of that!?’
Thank you to Celena for coming up with this idea and making it a reality! I am sure that the Nanny Caddy as saved many parents when they forgot something at home or hotel room.

If you would like to know more information about Nanny Caddy or want to see if there is one where you live or one where you maybe going to visit, please check out Nanny Caddy’s website!
To keep up with everything going on with Nanny Caddy, check out their Facebook page!

Now let’s all pull out our check books and buy one for your town 😉