Praying for the family

We hear & ask this of people all the time. When something happens to someone we always want to send prayer chains & requests for these people. Most of the time we are asking this for loved ones & sometimes we hear about a person/family that we don’t know but pray for them anyway. Please keep in mind that as I talk about this subject, I am not talking about people who are sick, a natural disaster happened to them, or something that a human didn’t cause.

Though we should pray for those people going through those things I listed above, we also need to pray for those who cause harm/trouble to others. I know that this may seem foreign to most but it’s what we are supposed to do. We tend to just pray for those who are affected by others…not pray for those who caused the problem. I know that in our eyes there are levels of sin, but in reality sin is sin. There is no worse than…no grading scale. They are all the same in God’s eyes.

We are to pray for our enemies. Those who hurt us. Those who do wrong to us.

Matthew 5:43-45
43“You have heard that it was said, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR and hate your enemy.’ 44“But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.…

That is & can be a very hard pill to swallow. No one wants good things to come to those who do us wrong. No one wants to pray for those people who hurt our loved ones. It’s not natural for our emotions to go this way. Our first & natural reaction is to hate this person & wish nothing but bad and even worse things on them.

Just because something comes natural to us doesn’t it mean that it’s always the right thing to do.
When something happens to us, a loved one, or a complete stranger, we need to remember to show/offer grace and forgiveness. Is this easy? Absolutely not! It’s one of the hardest things that I have ever done in my life. I don’t want to forgive those who have done wrong to us or who have lied to us.
It does me & my soul no good though to be this way towards those people.
I have had to take steps to get to this point. And so will you. This isn’t something that can happen right away. Maybe it can for some people but most people need time to get to this point.

When someone does someone else wrong (no matter what they have done….lied or killed) we need not only pray for the victims but also the person that has committed the wrong. We tend to forget that we are all human & all very much capable of doing what those on the news do. It’s all about what choices you make. The ‘bad guy’ may not  realize it but they want to be forgiven and given another chance. We all do when we do something wrong. No matter what wrong you have done, you want someone to give you another chance. Just because your mistake was different than the person you just read about or heard about on the news, makes them no different than you.

I am sure that there are many people out there that will disagree with me. That’s ok. I’m not asking people to agree with me. I am asking that you show grace to those who do wrong….no matter their wrong. We all make mistakes. We all do things that are wrong. Show everyone the same grace and compassion that you want. Remember, one sin isn’t worse than another.

Not only do we tend to not even give the bad guy a second look but we tend to over look their families as well. Just because someone does something doesn’t mean their family agrees with it or even knew their loved one could do such a thing. We have to not only pray for the victims & the bad guy(s) but also their families. I can’t imagine a family member doing something to affect so many & then be shunned just for being related to that person. There is no need to punish the family of the ‘bad guy’.

I am in no way saying the ‘bad guy’ shouldn’t be punished by law because he/she absolutely should! But we need to pray for them more than anything. Pray for a change of their heart. Everything that people produce comes from the heart….good & bad. It’s a heart issue & nothing more.

I don’t ask that you agree with me. I ask that the next time you hear or read about someone doing something awful to another person that you just stop and pray for that person. We don’t know their battle. Pray for their heart.


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