A friend of mine re-posted an article that was originally posted on ‘Shine’ from Yahoo. I usually read what the writer has to say about the 2 ‘different’ Moms. Most of the time (I can’t remember an article that got me too upset) I read the articles because they aren’t comparing rather explaining. It’s the comments that get me fired up!
I am NOT making this post to say that the working mom has it harder or the SAHM has it harder. I don’t think any one mom has it harder than the other. If you are a PARENT then your life is hard. Money, job, education, race……..none of that matters! Being a parent is hard. No one prepares you for it. No one tells you how it really is. Most people just tell you all the good stuff. Everyone’s world is different & should NOT be compared to anyone else’s life. You can’t compare your life to anyone else’s. There are way to many variables. It would be like comparing apples & oranges…..you can’t – they are too different. It’s just like with people.
So instead of trying to ‘out do’ other mothers and trying to get sympathy (because in the end…that’s what you are looking for), why don’t you just embrace & have empathy for a follow mother (and\or parent). Why are you always trying to one up someone else?! Get over it. Life is hard no matter what! Just because you have more on your plate doesn’t mean you have it worse off than someone else….just means that you are doing too much and maybe need to say ‘no’ to things so you aren’t running around looking like a chicken with your head cut off. I am so sick of hearing about this debate! I don’t understand why we can’t come together and support each other. Stop trying to get others to join your pity party by saying ‘I have it harder because…’
Final thought: BEING A PARENT IS HARD….PERIOD.