Do as I say, Not as I do

Did you hear this as a child? Do you find yourself saying this to your child(ren)?
Well if you do, maybe you should rethink this theory. Why do you ask? Because you are the first teacher and example to your children & you are their biggest influence (well until they turn into teenagers).

The old saying goes that your actions speak louder then your words and this rings so true!
You have heard, or will soon hear, that your kids repeat what you say – they may not know what it means, but they are most likely repeating you.
Same goes for what they see you do. Think about this the next time you get onto your kids when they do something they shouldn’t. Have you done this in front of them?

I know from my own experience that both, my husband and I, have gotten onto our kids about something they have done and then we stop and say ‘You can’t get mad at them when they are just repeating what they have seen you (or I) do’. I think you should take this opportunity to tell your kids that, yes, I have done this and it wasn’t right when I did it and it isn’t right for you either. Explain why and explain how they could do it differently next time. Of course this all depends on the age of your child.

I just find odd and wrong to punish your children when they are just copying what they learned from you, their parent. If you would ground, put in time-out, or take away something from your child for the actions they did displayed….maybe you should do the same to yourself the next time you do it too. We are here to teach our children right from wrong….not make excuses to why it is ok for us (the parents) to do something and then get mad at our kids for just copying what they see.

 So, to wrap this up, the next time you are quick to get onto your kids about something they did, take a step back and ask yourself if they are just coping you. And if the answer is yes, then you both can sit in time-out! Remember, a minute for how old you are 😉

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