This is my first blog about me being a mommie and my MommieVentures! I am excited to have started this and excited to see what comes from it! I hope that I can keep up with this and, most of all, have fun with this!
This is my first blog about me being a mommie and my MommieVentures! I am excited to have started this and excited to see what comes from it! I hope that I can keep up with this and, most of all, have fun with this!
This may be a short rant or a long drawn out thing…ya just never know with me!
We, moms & women, need to stop saying sorry all the time. I cannot count how many times a picture is posted and the first few words are
Sorry for my non-make up face.
Sorry for the clothes in the background.
Sorry for my messy hair.
Sorry for my kids fave being messy.
Sorry for this.
Sorry for that.
Stop saying sorry! No one would’ve even noticed those things of you wouldn’t have brought them up yourself. And even if they did, who cares. Why are we apologizing for these things?!
Are we really sorry for these things? Do we think there is a certain way we/our kids/our house/our car has to look in order to share a milestone or event or just a cute kiddo face?!
Why is it that a friend cannot come over to your house without you feeling the need to apologize for the way your house looks?! I mean, you have kids for crying out loud! I’m not coming over to your house to inspect it….I’m coming over to spend time with you.
Same applies with your car. Who cares?!
I am so fend up with hearing sorry come from women’s mouths when it’s not even something to be sorry about.
sor-ry [sor’ē] adjective, feeling pity or sorrow, regret
A Students Dictionary, Dictionary Projext Inc.
Please tell me why you are feeling pity about these things? What do you regret?
For the love, shut up & stop saying sorry!
You have nothing to be sorry about when you allow your natural beauty to show rather than a made up version for yourself.
You have nothing to be sorry about when you allow your kiddos to play all around your house.
You have nothing to be sorry about when you throw your hair in a messy bun rather than making sure every hair is in its place.
You have nothing to be sorry about when you allow others to see the real you rather than what you think society wants to see. If you have a friend or family member who cannot understand this, then please, kick them to the curb. If they are that insecure for you about your life, can you imagine how doubly insecure they are about their own life?! Not enough popcorn for all that drama!
Embrace yourself and life. There’s nothing wrong with letting things be messy or real or raw. Do not aplogize for living your life and putting the important things first.
Love the mess and those who help make it!
A few months ago I was in Michaels with friends after a girls night out dinner (this should already make you nervous since Michaels & friends are in the same sentence 😜). Our intention was to find some new washi tape, maybe some new scrapbook paper, and maybe some new stickers. As we are all debating what to buy and how much our discounts would be, I happen to turn around and see this wall of cute little binders with little books that can go inside them. So I decided to buy a binder and book but had no idea what I was going to use them for.
Fast forward to just last week. I’ve joined a bible study at my church, my first Beth Moore study, and there were a few times what she said hit me. At the same time I decided to start some reading plans on the bible app I have. To be honest, I didn’t even read what the plans I choose were about, I choose them based on the title of the plan. I didn’t even know how many days all these plans were, the title sounded relevant and so I clicked ‘Start plan’. It’s a very scientific way of picking reading plans don’t you think?! Between the two, bible study & reading plans, I’ve been prompted to work on my attitude & home life.
I’ve been using this little notebook/journal to record any words/quotes that I find to be encouraging, any wins that come out way, and I wanted to record who I am in this season of life. I think it’ll be fun to look back and see how I’ve changed and grown.
I’ve laminated my dividers just for extra protection. There is a total of 5 dividers that come in the binder.
Do you keep a journal? Have you gone back to look at old entries to see your growth? I would love to hear about it!
And it’s been a long time again. I really don’t like going so long between posts and not blogging about my ventures in motherhood! It’s hard to find time when my brian can slow down, think, and the type everything out.
Life is pretty crazy these days. I delivered our 7th child in August. School started a few days later….which is another adventure since I’m homeschooling 2 of our 4 school aged children. And the extra activities we choose to be apart of. Life seems to be crazy for everyone when this time of year comes around. But in a weird way, I enjoy it!
I won’t put too much on my plate for the blog right now but I’m going to shot for at least one post a week. I can’t guarantee that it’ll make sense with all my jumbleness but I’m sure someone out there will be able to relate. If not, welcome to my world 😜
For now, I’ll leave you with this and I’ll get an official post out this week! See you then!
I follow a lady named Kristin Schmucker on instagram. Towards the end of October she announced that she was hosting a photo challenge for the month of November & I decided to jump on that and participate.
I did get days behind and then had to play catch up but I am happy to report that I actually did all 30 days! I usually start these things and then finish them….go me!!
I was going to share the pictures from instagram to facebook but then I thought that I would just put them all here & add the description that I wrote along with it.
I don’t really know why I choose to share this way but oh well, I did!
Reminds me to always know that the bad that happens is to bring Him glory!#lampandlight #novemberphotochallenge#day2 #genesis50:20 #playcatchup#imbehind #favoritebibleverse@kristinschmucker #kristinschmucker
One of my favorite mugs. Given to me by a great friend as a Christmas present. Every time I use it I think of her and all the fun we have together!#novemberphotochallenge #lampandlight#day3 #mugshot @kristinschmucker#kristinschmucker
My Bible study spot…..where I’m comfortable and snuggly & if I fall asleep while studying (which happens often), I don’t have to get up and move! 😜
#lampandlight #biblestudyspot #day4#novemberphotochallenge@kristinschmucker #kristinschmucker
I have many goals that I’d like to accomplish in my life. At the end of the day I know none of that matters if I’m still the old me. It’ll take time but I know that my ultimate goal is to be a better me than I was yesterday.
#lampandlight #day5 #playingcatchup#goals
The book of Proverbs is an instructional manual in my opinion. It can tell how you act and what to say. So much wisdom is within those pages.
#lampandlight #day6 #playingcatchup#day6 #proverbs #bookinthebible
As much as they drive me questions and even question I was given an army of mini me’s, these little people have made my world better. They have taught me so much and made me step out of my comfort zone to give them a better life. I love them and they certainly my small blessings.
#lampandlight #day7 #playingcatchup#smallblessings #mykiddos
This has been something that’s been laid upon my heart for at least 6 months, if not more. It’s something I’m praying about and asking God to tell me where and how I should do this.
#lampandlight #onyourheart#playingcatchup #day10 #titus2:3-4
This journal is one of my favorite things. A great friend gave it to me and it’s a place where I can create and draw out the Word when it touches me.
#lampandlight #afavoritething#playingcatchup #day11 #biblejournal#create #givenbyafriend
I know that I’m given grace ever second of my day but to be able to wake up every morning and start from a clean slate is the biggest sign of grace to me.
#lampandlight #areminderofgrace#playingcatchup #day12 #sunrise #grace
There are too many to list but this seems to be one of the biggest prayer requests I have right now. A house. One that will fit us more comfortably than the one we are currently in. One that we can call home.
#lampandlight #day13 #caughtup#aprayerrequest #aplacetocallhome
“We bring the kingdom come” We Christ followers are the ones who bring the kingdom to others on a daily basis. Not only do I love this lyric but I love this song!
#lampandlight #day14 #favoritelyric#webringthekingdomcome #jasongray#witheveryactoflove
My memory today is my grandparents on my moms side. I miss them much and it saddens me to no end at what they are missing out on. I’d give almost anything to have them back!
#lampandlight #memory #grandparents#wishtheywerestillhere #mcgrew#missthem #lovethem
Nature can give us signs of life & death but has a way of making it look so beautiful. It’s almost thanksgiving and though most trees are turning and leaves are falling, they still are so green! And that blue sky….I just love me a Texas clear blue sky!
#lampandlight #day20 #nature #texassky#fall #trees #lifeanddeath #beautiful
When I study scripture or just read my Bible, I have my purple pen, Bible, and my journal. I never know when a verse will hit me and I want to be ready to journal it.
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day21#howistudyscripture
I have to be honest and say that I haven’t read Psalms enough to have a favorite verse from this book. Think I know what book I’ll be reading next!
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day22#favoritepsalms #bookofpsalms
This is a book that helped me to be involved where I feel led/called to be involved in. I’ve cut out the ‘extras’ and just concentrating on my calling.
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day23#abook #calling #thebestyes#lysaterkeurst
This word is one that I’ve taken to heart over these last few months to a year & a half. My joy cannot and will it be stolen by anyone or any situation that life throws me. I choose joy. Bad things can happen but my joy still remains.
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day24#joy #cantstealmyjoy #ichoosejoy
Me! You! We are all attributes of God. We are made in His image!
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day27#anattributeofgod #me #you#madeinhisimage
This is so true and definitely something I’m thankful for!
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day26#whatimthankfulfor #friends #family
We are mixed up, crazy, tired, annoying, real, and all of this equals a beautiful mess.
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day28#abeautifulmess #welkerfamily #family#welkerkiddos #welker
It took awhile to figure out how we were going to announce that we were expecting baby number 6 but I love how this turned out. Things can change with one step (literally & figuratively) and our step was adding two more feet to our family.
#lampandlight #playingcatchup #day29#aphotoilove
PS- just want to say that I am NOT pregnant. I tried to word it so it explained a previous pregnancy announcement but it didn’t come across that way.
I’ve been saying this for as long as I can remember & it’s so true.
#lampandlight #day30 #wordstoliveby
There is my 30 day photo challenge! Hope you enjoyed it…..let me know if you did this one too! Now onto my December challange!!!<<<<Let me know if you will do this one with me!
These are songs that my 11 year old son wrote himself and brought to Mister and I. I held back tears when reading these. I will cherish and keep these papers forever! I pray he continues to write these songs!
Jesus is my savior
Oh God we come and sing for your glory today. Where we go. Jesus is my savior and lord for all. No one can stop him from the spirit of God. Yeah (repeat 2x). Jesus is my savior for me and you. Oh oh oh. The flowers in spring will shout your name (echo repeat 2x). There’s no other God but you. You are the spirit in us. Jesus is my savior. Am for you (repeat).
AMEN (repeat 2x)
We love you lord of all God.
Fire in my heart
There is a fire spreading in my heart. He’s love is like a foreign my heart. My heart is on fire because of my God is with me (repeat 2x). It’s like my heart is melting with God. Yeah (repeat). He is the only one we shall worship. Who loves us!!
And his love never fails on me. Yeah. Oh oh oh ohhhh. Because there is fire in my heart (repeat). Yeah.
We are a flower blooming
In God we trust. It’s so great and powerful. Your name is great and your song is sung. In the name of Jesus there is power (repeat). We are a flower blooming in the sun where your spirit holds in place. For everyone believes in you shall have eternal life with with you in heaven. Because your our God. We are a flower blooming in your hands of Jesus Christ. Dear God thank you for our song. Thank you for listening to it.
We are flower blooming for you. Now you can make what you wanted it to be. And we can help you with anything you want us to do. And WE are a flower blooming in your hands.
Fire from the ocean
Lord we come and praise you. And we are going to sing to you. Where we go. Oh lord we come from a fire in the ocean. You died for our sins that we made. Ohhohoh (repeat). We come for the fire in the ocean. And you washed our faith and made it new. We praise you with our heart, with our mind, with our soul, and strength. We love you with our heart. Yeah. Oh lord we come from a fire in the ocean. Hallelujah. Praise the lord. Say it loud so he can hear you. We come from a fire in the ocean. We will for real to come with you to heaven (repeat). We are a fire in the ocean.
Life is funny sometimes….well all the time if we really look at things and how it all turns out.
We find people we click with and want to do life with them. Those relationships either continue or are broken for whatever reason. Usually when they are broken, they stay broken. Too many times it’s over something so trivial and neither party wants to swallow that hard pill….pride. Pride is not our friend y’all!
Sometimes those relationships are broken for good reasons and they should stay broken.
Whatever the reason your relationship is broken, really look at the problem and be honest about it with yourself. It’s so much easier to hold a grudge than it is to mend that tear in the fabric of our friendships.
In reality, that’s not what we are called to do. We aren’t told to hold grudges or leave things messy.
We are first and foremost called to forgive. Forgiveness isn’t for the other person, believe me when I say, it’s for ourselves. Forgiveness allows the weight of the issue to leave your shoulders and you feel 100 pounds lighter. I know this is hard and takes time but it’s something we have to do. Holding onto unforgiveness is ugly and messy….no one wants that. (Matthew 4:16)
When you lose a friend and there’s an opportunity to heal and restart, take a moment and ask yourself (and put yourself in their shoes) if it’s something you can move past. Most of the time it is. People will do is wrong, lie, cheat, steal, and hurt us to the core. That is no excuse to not forgive. Pray about your particular situation and listen for your answer. Sometimes we have to do what we’re supposed to do instead of what we want in order to be obedient to Him.
Closing chapters in our lives are hard. Whether it be a job, friends, volunteering, or even family…closing those doors aren’t always something you want to do. Sometimes we have to close those doors in order to be a better us. Closing those doors could even equal us living a better life. Reducing stress, cutting the negative out, or maybe a bad influence.
I personally feel that we should tell the person how you feel and not just cut the cord with no explanation. And then there are times that it’s just best to cut that cord. Talking to this person/people won’t make your choice better and could even make things worse. You have to pick which battle you are willing to fight in.
Whatever door you are closing for whatever reason, we need to be asking God to give us peace with this choice. If this door is meant to be closed rather than closed because that’s just what we want, He’ll close it. We are not to force things to happen just because that’s what we want or because that’s what feels good in the moment. God is bigger than us and His plan is better than ours.
Let’s step back for a moment (or two or ten) and wait on Him to give us the directions and actions we should do. Doing the opposite of His will for us will not just hurt us but also those around us.
Pray. Wait. Listen. Praise.
Written on 10/21/15
I had a topic about closing chapters in your life that I was going to talk about tonight. Something happened today that I think needs to be talked about more.
Our kiddos. We all have those moments/days where we want to pull our hair out because we just cannot make it one more minute with them. We all have those days when we look at our children and ask God how we got so lucky to have been given such an amazing child. Then there are the days where we don’t think about either one of those things.
You hear on the news about horrible things happening to children and for that moment, you appreciate yours just a little bit more. Even may hug them a little tighter that night.
We take our children for granted most of the time. I think most of us always have it in the back of our minds that those bad things won’t happen to our children. On any day at any moment, it can and will.
Today was our day.
One of our kiddos went missing after school. No one could find him. His teachers started looking in every unlocked room in the school. Looked all over the playground. He wasn’t there. One of his teachers even got in her car and went driving around looking for him. Time was ticking and the staff thought that the police needed to be called in order to help look for him. She printed off his yearbook picture along with our phone numbers, the schools number, and a description of what he was wearing today. Mister was on his way up to the school when he found out the police were getting involved. While all this was going on two of our friends where helping. One was helping to look around the school and the other went to our house to look for him. Once the officer arrived he collected the fliers and waited for mister to arrive. While we were waiting my friend pulled up with our kiddo in her car, she had found him! Thank God for her and for finding him! Our kiddo didn’t see me right away after school and decided to walk home. This is unlike him so I didn’t think that’s what happened. He was safe so the details didn’t matter to me.
There will be days when he will still drive me up the wall and I’ll want to hang him by his toes. There will be days where I’ll still take him for granted. I will try my best to not take any of my kiddos for granted anymore. This had to have been one of the scariest moments of my life. Not knowing where my child was, who had him, and what was happening to him. Those thoughts take a mind of their own when something like this happens. Make an effort to back up and chill. Look at your child and just be thankful. That child could be taken from you at any moment….and it doesn’t matter how good of a parent you think you are. Love those kiddos more today than you did yesterday. Put down those walls and love them like there is no tomorrow.
Written on 10/16/15
Before reacting to something we hear or see, we need to step back and make sure we aren’t creating a bigger issue by opening our mouth. Most of the time our intentions are to just clear the air or make sure someone is ok but sometimes we create a bigger issue and more drama than anything. We should stop and make sure what our motives are for wanting to tell this information. Once we figure that part out then we should take the responsible steps to correct any issue or rumor or disagreement we have. Sometimes nothing is needed to be said and that’s ok. Sometimes we just need to talk the individual. And sometimes we just need to take what we hear/see with a grain of salt.
This is coming from my own personal experience. We all mess up sometimes and that’s ok. All we can do is apologize, ask for forgiveness, and move forward. Even though life does come with its own instruction manual….I still mess up and need to regroup. Thank God for grace!!!
Written on 10/15/15
Oh is my Mama heart hurting big time tonight!
We’ve all been there on those days when we are telling our kiddos to pick up their rooms. Sometimes you have to go in there and tell them to stop fighting and/or playing around. Work as a team to get their room cleaned up.
Oh and how many threats we pull out to get them to do these things! More than 90% of those threats have just been smoke up their rear ends I’m sure! I know because I use empty threats all the time.
Today was a day that my threat wasn’t empty. Today was a day that I actually followed through with what I said I was going to do. Today was a day that my Mama heart broke.
I heard the boys playing and fighting in their room again after going in there several times, telling them to stop, and threatening to throw whatever was on the floor that belonged to them away. Two of my boys didn’t take me seriously. One of those boys had to throw his own stuff away. The other boy didn’t want to listen (again) so I had to bring the trash can in his room myself and throw it away as he’s screaming at me that he wants his stuff and asking for another chance. That’s same boy continues his tantrum and decides to take his homework out of his binder, erase all his homework that he spent his afternoon completing, and scribble all over it. I then decided to write his teacher a note over the scribble and tell her to not allow him to get another sheet and that there are consequences for his actions and the grade he gets is one of them.
As I was watching my son who had to throw his own things away carry his belongings outside and dump them in our big green trash can outside and watching him cry made me want to sneak outside while he was sleeping and take it all out. My other son is also very upset about his things being thrown away. When he realized he wasn’t going to be able to redo his homework, he became even more upset because he was going to get a life skills mark.
As I’m writing this one of these sons keeps going into our bedroom begging to have one more chance and that he’ll even get his brothers things out of the green trash can if I do give him this last chance. As much as I want to (and I really do want to) give both of my boys another chance, I cannot. I have to stand firm and follow through with what I said I was going to do. If I’m not willing to follow through with my threats, then I shouldn’t make them in the first place. I had to explain to them that if I didn’t love and care for them, then I would’ve continued to allow them to misbehave, be rude, disrespectful, and disobedient towards me. But because I love them I had to do this.
How many times has God had to take something away from me because I just wouldn’t listen? How many chances is God willing to give me before He must put His foot down? As much as it breaks my heart…man, I can only imagine how it breaks His. I’ve asked so many times for things to be different or to have something back that was taken from me. But if I would’ve gotten what I asked for them I wouldn’t have learned what I did and wouldn’t have realized that because He takes He really does love me.
So Mamas out there…showing your children consequences isn’t unloving or mean but a must to show them your position & to be taken seriously. Just make sure that you are ready to follow through with whatever threat you give them….no matter how much you don’t want to or how much it hurts.
Press on Mamas…..tomorrow is another day to show more love and grace.
Written on 09/29/15